Help! cheating boyfriend?

I am 20 andI have a 1 1/2 year old daughter with my boyfriend of five years. I just recently moved to a different state while he stayed behind for a month to save more money while waiting to get a job in the new state. While we were apart we talked every day as a family. He told me how much he missed us and couldn't wait to be together again. I started getting a funny feeling about him and his myspace account so I started chatting friendly with him with a different ID. I just wanted to see what he was up to. Everyone of the friends on his profile are from the new city we moved to. He has lied about what he does for a living and about the fact that he is moving here. He has said that he is just visiting for a week. He did confess about his daughter but says that she lives with his "ex," me. I know that it isn't cheating technically but it still hurts. What should I do?

Help! cheating boyfriend?

You are in a tough position, but in all fairness you should check and see what you want first.

If a relationship with this man is a top priority, then you must communicate your desire with him directly. Put the heat on him to make a commitment.

He will have to decide what he wants...if it is you, then all will work out...if not, then you must prepare yourself to move on.

However, as he is the father of your daughter, he will be a part of your life for many years to come, regardless of what happens.

He needs to be a responsible father, even if he has a problem with being loyal to his daughters mother.

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"so I started chatting friendly with him with a different ID."

Uh huh. Way to go.

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Well you really can't say much because if he found out you did that he would think you are psycho. I would just ask him what he does on the myspace and keep grillin him about it. That was pretty f'ed up for him to say that about you. That's not cool.

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kindly think about your daughter.

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get rid of him

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hes a liar and a sneak. JUst becaue you have a child with him doesnt mean you have to be with him.

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dump the azzhole.

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people you chat with on the internet aren't really real!!

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it's "cheating" because it involves deception. you have to talk to him right now about why he's not telling the truth on myspace.

something is up and if you don't get to the bottom of it and fix it he is headed away from you. make sure you are around when he is on the computer. if he is trying to hide things, there is a problem and you need to talk to him about it. ask him about it. because keeping silent lets the problem get worse.

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have second, third and fourth thoughts. until you

realize you don't need this.

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although its not "technically cheating" he still lied. go with your gut and don't sell yourself short.

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You cant confront him, since you lied to get the information. Just watch closely. If he treats you and your daughter right, then maybe he does it for thrills, I know sometimes I use myspace to half pick up chicks just to prove I can.

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Do not put up with lying. Figure out where your boundries are and let hime know. if you crosses them, is he really worth it?

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take him to court. that is all i can tell you sorry bout your prob.

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Keep playing your undercover gig. See how far he will go with his story.

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tell, him off, and or expose your self on myspace to him and make him feel dumb

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hmmm...thats mature

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If I were you I would put a picture of the two of you together up on the "friendly" site that you have... Make sure that he knows that he has been caught...

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well, you opened that pandoras box, what did you think ?? ok, so now you know... what now ?? you can either go on as if nothing is happening or you can show him in person what you found... over the phone is NOT a good idea....... you can find out more by watching body language than voice.......so, it is up to you ....... God bless

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while chatting with him let him know who you really are then have a heart to heart talk if he wants you tell him to be true

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You invaded his privacy ..... you were wrong. If you did not do that, you would not know this information and he probably isn't even acting on it. He's probably just having fun. Let it be. It drives me INSANE when people keep invading each other's privacy -- you find out things you may not like or want to know. I've been married 25 years and neither of us have EVER invaded each other's privacy -- mail, email, anything. I don't even go in his wallet unless he asks me to for a reason and he doesn't shuffle through my purse. You were wrong.

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cheating is cheating?he was about to cheat still makes him guilty, confront him and see what his reaction will be like.he definitely cant deny it cause you got you got proof

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I would definately have a serious talk with him. you have to let him that its not okay. And to me that is pratically cheating because he has the intention and that is more than enough.

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i completley agree with BonesofaTeacher

Her words:

it's "cheating" because it involves deception. you have to talk to him right now about why he's not telling the truth on myspace.

something is up and if you don't get to the bottom of it and fix it he is headed away from you. make sure you are around when he is on the computer. if he is trying to hide things, there is a problem and you need to talk to him about it. ask him about it. because keeping silent lets the problem get worse.

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WOW. If he isn't cheating yet it sure looks like he is getting ready to.

What you are going to do about it is totally up to you.

Do you trust him now?

Do you love him enough to over look this?

Do you still love him?

There a lot of questions that you need to ask yourself.

But do not stay together because of your child.

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Just b/c it was you who caught him means he isn't cheating? Please how many other people has he been on line with and told the same things, or worse, sounds like he is prefilling his book since he will be leaving his established area of women and building a new list. Perhaps you need to re-evaluate your relationship a little. Ask the hard questions, but be prepared for the hard answers. You are young, trust me if he turns out not to be the one b/c he can't be faithful you can find someone or they will find you, that will treat you the way you should be.

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Trust your women's intuition. If you had that feeling then it was for a reason. I have had that feeling more than once and it turned out to be right every time. If he is telling people that his daughter lives with his ex then he dosen't want someone to know about you. You better open your eyes or he is going to disappear right in front of them.

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There is no such thing as "technical" when it comes to cheating. Even if your boyfriend is not physically engaging in any sort of sexual activity, he has betrayed your trust. I would suggest that you dump him and raise your daughter around a man who will provide her with a higher standard of honor.

On the flipside, you can be pretty sure that most people flirt. The fact that this bothers you is what is at issue here - if it did not, it would notbe an issue. Many couples have relationships where they feel free to flirt with strangers. However, since this bothers you, your boyfriend should refrain from this sort of behavior.

Nevertheless, based on the fact taht he has lied or at least obfuscated the truth, you should leave him. Without trust, there cannot be a relationship.

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This IS cheating. He has concocted an identity so that he can meet people without you knowing about it. What should you do? Because you have a child with him, I think you have an obligation to try to work it out -- one time. If he does this again, dump him and move on.

First, confront him. Print out all the myspace pages and other evidence and show it to him.

Second, make an appointment with a marriage/relationship counselor and tell him to be there. If he doesn't show up, dump him and move on. If he does, do your best to work it out with him.

Third, if he does anything like this again, DUMP HIM and move on.

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Im sorry to hear about your situation. That's a tough one. If you're okay with him knowing that you made up a myspace profile and was checking up on him, then just tell him straight up, what you're feeling and tell him that he really hurt you. I would ask him why he's telling these people different things than what he's telling you. I think the best way to save this relationship would be to keep everything honest. But I would also think about whether or not YOU want to be with him. Can you trust him after this and most of all, think about your daughter. You really just have to weigh everything out and think about what's more important to you and what the would be the best decision to make concerning your little girl. Good luck.

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You are basically screwed. Your one chance is to confront him on this. Tell him you pretended to be someone else and caught him trying to cheat on you. Tell him you think he is cheating on you and getting ready to abandon you and your baby (this is, of course, the truth). Tell him in no uncertain terms that this is unacceptable and he is to move to where you are immediately and to marry you (you are fool for not being married already, you having a baby with him). He will either agree to this, or he is going to abandon you. If he agrees to it, you need to keep him under close watch and a short leash, basically for the rest of your life.

If he leaves, your life is ruined. Your only chance is to force him to take on the role of husband and father. This will be difficult since your choice for your baby's father was so damn poor. However, your options are extremely limited. One thing is for sure, if you do nothing, the worst possible outcome will happen.