Ok well I have two friends who are completely oppisite and do not like each other, (JILL) is just negative all the time and talks about people, even me and yes I know she is not a real friend but I am not the type to cause conflict, been there done that, didnt work. Well lately JILL just said something mean about (JANE) on my myspace and it really bothers me. I have a funny video of Jane on my blag and Jill left a message that said, " I cant believe you have her on your page!!!" That really upsets me and I want I good response to it that is not negative but kinda a positive reinforment? I GUESS? Something moraly good? Please help, because she can be the devil and has ways of making me feel bad all the time so I want something that isnt mean but wont give her a reason to give me a bad reply back. That way maybe she will get the hint that I dont like her negativity but not that way. Maybe it could be along the lines of being nicer to people is one of my resolutions for this year?
Friends not liking friends???HELP!!!?
I don't think you have a problem with friends not liking Friends, i think you have a problem with some one who wants to control and intimidate you and make you one of her negativity chain.
I think that in this case avoiding conflict may sound commendable but it is NOT. Tell Ms Jill that you respect her right not to be buddy's with Jane and tell her that you expect no less from her. If she doesn't want to be your friend because you are conscientious and loyal and do not want to be bossed around and have your friend Jane bad mouthed
If Jill responds by being nasty just cross her off your list. There is a phenomenon of odds vs evens, 3 or 5 people seldom get along as well as 2 , 4 , 6 people, Ms Jill may just be one who doesn't play well with others...
I guess maybe when she said she couldn't believe you had Jane on your myspace who could have come back with something like yes I am waiting to find you doing something fun and silly so I can put you on also because my friends certainly are enjoying Jane being silly.....Or you could Pray for her.... that what ever makes her so negative will go away with out hurting anyone....and if she gets testy don't be afraid to tell her you are concerned for her and will keep her in your prayers.......We all could do well with the resolution to be nicer to each other and ourselves also....
Friends not liking friends???HELP!!!?
Why do you call Jill a friend if you know she's not a "real" friend. Just forget about her and move on. There's no reason to keep people in your life that have no purpose. You didn't mention a single positive thing about Jill, and it seems the only reason you even deal with her is to avoid conflict. Stop worrying so much. Be a good friend to Jane and all will work out.
Friends not liking friends???HELP!!!?
tell her to give JANE a break.
Friends not liking friends???HELP!!!?
punish them. they deserve it.
Friends not liking friends???HELP!!!?
both of them sound really childish...like...WHO does that? are you sure you want to be friends with girls like that? they sound like they are bringing you down more than adding positive things to your life. which is what real friends do.
anyway, tell them that if they are going to have drama, leave you out of it and dont use your page as a medium to vent their feelings about each other.
they are going to do what they want and feel what they want, but maybe you can ask one why she doesnt like the other. if the reason is petty, help her rethink her decision and start over with the other girl and apologize. if its a valid reason, maybe all of you can sit down and talk one day (you know, like mature individuals) and sort out the problems.
main thing is, you dont want THEIR negativity bringing YOU down. good luck!
Friends not liking friends???HELP!!!?
Look, you can't be afraid to tell them exactly how you feel. You need to tell them basically everything that you said here and you need to tell both of them that if they are a true friend, then they will respect that you like both of them equally. It's not fair to you to choose one side or the other, because you get screwed over and one of them always gets screwed over too. Tell them to stop being so immature and to step up and be human.
Friends not liking friends???HELP!!!?
Why are you tolerating Jill's behavior? She makes you feel bad, she makes Jane feel bad, and probably a bunch of other people. You need to make it clear to her that you're not going to take it anymore. If you won't do it for yourself, do it for your friend. Jill knows perfectly well that you're too soft and she's taking full advantage of it. You sound like a nice person, but be nice to someone who is worth it, like Jane, by telling Jill to knock it the hell off. I'm sure Jane feels hurt that you stick up for Jill when Jill says hurtful things about Jane. Good luck.
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